tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376693003192814341.post6443753000653576193..comments2023-05-17T16:54:49.738+01:00Comments on Grow Our Own ~ an ecotherapy blog: Reality hits me like a smack on the face ~ UPDATEDCarriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01475182740888543862noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376693003192814341.post-17985710130967169952009-10-02T17:14:01.418+01:002009-10-02T17:14:01.418+01:00Hi Carrie, I don't know why I picked this part...Hi Carrie, I don't know why I picked this particular post, Sept 16th, to leave you a comment...I've been reading all of your posts and wanted to leave a comment several times, but I decided to leave a longer one here. I have loved so many of your posts...you've shared so much about all of your hard work, your determination and ability to do just about anything when you put your mind to it! Your allotment has looked wonderful...and I know it's just about 'gone' for the rest of the year...but you've accomplished so much with your husband;-) Now you need to keep in your mind the fact that what you 'tell' yourself does have a huge impact on what you will 'feel'. I know you struggle with anxiety/depression, etc., and you can't just 'think' yourself out of those feelings, not totally, anyway. BUT, you can definitely use your ability to 'choose what you tell yourself' about what you may be feeling at any given moment. As I've mentioned before, I've struggled with many of these same issues--and it's much easier for me to write about what I know, or 'tell' someone else what I know, rather than 'apply them to myself'. Believe me, I would much rather have someone here to 'force my brain to re-direct my thoughts' and make me use 'positive self-talk' than to have to try to do it myself. It's a constant, daily struggle. Yet, with the knowledge that what you tell yourself DOES have a direct effect on what you will feel, you can make some improvements in your level of happiness. (Don't mean to sound like I'm preaching, and I'm not your therapist...but being a mental health counselor, I guess I just can't help myself!). I know going to a counselor costs money...and I don't even know what that's like in your 'healthcare' system--but I hope you've been able to have a person like that to work with you in your life. I've had my own counseling and I know it really can help. Anyway...sorry I haven't visited in ages (!) but just want to tell you that I think you are a beautiful, sensitive but strong soul--and you deserve to be happy every day, and feel good about who you are! You are my friend, and I think about you. Hang in there and have faith that the bad moments will pass--because they will--and remember that you can help the process by continuing to 'choose' to use positive words--and even though you might believe that you 'hate yourself', say just the opposite of that. Say you love yourself, to yourself. It's called 'fake it 'til ya make it'! It sounds silly, but when I worked as a counselor at a mental health hospital, we used to tell our patients that's how positive changes occur! Go through the steps, and pretty soon, a lot of your feelings will actually change! [[[You probably know everything I've just said; so just take this as my way of saying that I care about you and hope that you will always believe in yourself and love yourself like you would love another person.]]] Take care;-)Janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12844013803699228989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376693003192814341.post-20248827054503569032009-09-16T17:39:57.740+01:002009-09-16T17:39:57.740+01:00To all you lovely ladies - Thank you xxTo all you lovely ladies - Thank you xxCarriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01475182740888543862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376693003192814341.post-83279210178236656232009-09-16T09:59:05.146+01:002009-09-16T09:59:05.146+01:00Remember - when things get really tough, you DO kn...Remember - when things get really tough, you DO know what to do to make things better again.<br /><br />It might be baby steps, but they'll get you there.VPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02732971362066784175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376693003192814341.post-3466226725210597912009-09-16T07:00:37.260+01:002009-09-16T07:00:37.260+01:00Just lovely Carrie, what lovely blooms you have in...Just lovely Carrie, what lovely blooms you have in your September Garden. I think you are on the right track with your therapy. Keep on digging!<br /><br />Tyra<br /><br /><a href="http://tyras-greenhouse.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">THE GREENHOUSE IN TYRA'S GARDEN</a>TYRA Hallsénius Lindhehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04111758517855490413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8376693003192814341.post-76157240673406544602009-09-15T20:58:54.588+01:002009-09-15T20:58:54.588+01:00Hi Carrie glad you got to the lottie and feel a li...Hi Carrie glad you got to the lottie and feel a little better. Good to have you back.allot of veghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16964874150856535561noreply@blogger.com